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New Jersey Swinger Clubs and Swinger Resorts: Lifestyle fun in New Jersey

New Jersey swinger clubs and resorts

My wife and I have been active swingers for a few years now and we just love the lifestyle. We have loved checking out new swinger spots across the country and have been trying to compile a state-by-state guide to the best swinger spots.

And that leads to the question, what is available for New Jersey swinger clubs and New Jersey swinger resorts?

In general, New Jersey is a great state to be a swinger in. There are a few New Jersey swinger clubs and even what I would consider a New Jersey swinger resort. In addition to these actual businesses, there are New Jersey swinger groups that have hotel events that give swingers an opportunity to play.

So let’s take a look at what is available for New Jersey swinger clubs and New Jersey swinger resorts. In addition, we will look at what is available for New Jersey swinger Groups. If you are a man that is new to the swinger lifestyle be sure to check out the Men’s Swinger Concerns section.

New Jersey Swinger Clubs, Swinger Resorts, and Other Options

If you are looking for swinger lifestyle venues in New Jersey then you are in luck. New Jersey has all of these options. These swinger spots are mostly geared towards swinger couples but all accept single women and most accept single men.

The swinger lifestyle that these places promote is the open sexual relationships where couples and singles allow and encourage their partners to have sexual relations with others. If you go to this type of place, you are probably going to encounter nudity and sexual activity.

There are a couple of New Jersey swinger clubs. These are basically nightclubs that cater to the swinger crowd. Most are BYOB establishments that have playrooms for swinger fun.

There is one large swinger club that I classify as a New Jersey swinger resort due to the attached hotel. This place gives you the whole swinger experience. This is the type of experience that you will not find unless you go to the Florida swinger resorts or a big resort like Hedonism II.

A great alternative to swinger resorts or swinger clubs is the events that are put on by New Jersey swinger groups. These events can include hotel takeovers that can essentially turn a local hotel into a temporary swinger resort.

We will also go over some Major Online Sites for New Jersey Swingers. These are websites that New Jersey swingers can use to help make swinger connections at the clubs or on their own. These connections are essential to the swinger lifestyle.

New Jersey Swinger Clubs

When it comes to picking a New Jersey swinger club, you do have a few options. These swinger clubs have dedicated on-premise facilities. This means a permanent location that usually has a BYOB bar, dancefloor, adult playrooms, and other amenities.

These clubs are usually open on a regular basis and you can attend them on a regular basis. This allows you to get to know the regular crowd and can make it a more comfortable experience.

Karizma Social Club

New Jersey swinger club Karizma
New Jersey Swinger Club Karizma image from https://www.karizmasocialclub.com/

NJ-31, Glen Gardner,
NJ 08826
https://www.karizmasocialclub.com/

Karizma is a highly rated New Jersey swinger club that has a loyal following. This 7,800 square-foot facility has multiple playrooms including private playrooms, semi-private play areas, and several open playrooms/lounges, a pool table, beer pong, a dance floor, music, and a bar.

The bar is a BYOB bare where you bring your own alcohol that you turn in and they will serve it back to you with free mixers.

On-site clubs like this are great fun. The playrooms let you have all kinds of swinger fun play with new friends. If you don’t feel like playing yourselves, you can always watch others. This really can get the juices going with you and your partner.

Another, a great feature of Karizma is that they offer a shuttle to some of the local hotels. This is a great feature so that you can actually enjoy the night without having to worry about transportation.

The club does require a membership in order to attend. You can apply for membership right on their website. Once your membership is approved, you can make reservations to attend events. You pay for your membership and event fees at the door (cash only).

Membership for couples is $60/year or $20/month. For single women, an annual membership is $20. For single men, an annual membership is $80. Single male memberships have SLS (SwingLifestyle) membership requirements.

Karizma is open on Fridays and Saturdays. Friday hours are 9 pm to 5 am. Saturday hours are 8 pm to 5 am.

Typical Friday event fees are $40 for couples, $60 for single men, and single women are free. Typical Saturday event fees are $40 for couples, single women are free and single men are generally not allowed.

Friday and Saturdays have themed events. You can find a list of events on the Karizma website or on the club listing at SLS (SwingLifestyle).

Lacey’s PlayHouse

Brown Mills, NJ
732-510-5213
https://www.laceysplayhouse.com/

This is an on-premise swinger club. It is not a regular club/bar but is held on a regular basis. The club itself is relatively small 1500 square feet but they do have play areas. The facility is BYOB and is open to couples and single females only.

They also put on off-site takeover-type events that they list on their website and on SLS (SwingLifestyle).

You have to contact them through their website, text or SLS to RSVP and attend. You prepay for attendance through Venmo or another pay app. On the weekend we checked in about, it was $80 for a couple to attend.

New Jersey Swinger Resorts

Amazingly, there is a New Jersey swinger resort. Some may consider Saints & Sinners a New Jersey swinger club but I consider it a resort because of the attached hotel and clothing-optional pool. These two items are hard to find north of Florida and make this place definitely worth checking out.

Saints & Sinners

New Jersey Swingers Club Saints & Sinners
New Jersey Swinger Resorts Saints & Sinners Image from https://www.saintsandsinnersclubs.com/

18 S Dr Martin Luther King Blvd,
Atlantic City, NJ 08401
1-800-960-4191
https://www.saintsandsinnersclubs.com/

For New Jersey swinger resorts, Saints & Sinners is your only and best option. This is more like a swinger club than a resort but the attached hotel gives you options that you basically do not find north of Florida. The clothing-optional pool and hotel are what sold me on classifying this as a swinger resort.

We absolutely love the swinger resort feel of the place. We are big fans of the pool. The clothing-optional pool is a great place to meet other couples and make connections. We have met more partners sitting naked in a pool than anywhere else.

Saints & Sinners is attached to the 30-room Surfside hotel. This allows you to visit the club portion and take advantage of the Saturday pool parties while staying overnight.

The on-site hotel rooms are a must for that relaxed resort feel. Your hotel room gives you a place to go if you meet a really interesting couple that you want to spend time with. It also gives you a place to go if you just want to spend time as a couple for a little bit.

Amenities at Saints & Sinners include two dance floors, two bars, stripper poles, a light and sound show, an outdoor deck, clothing optional pool, locker rooms, showers, private playrooms, open playrooms, and a lounge area.

They are open on Fridays from 9 pm to 3 am for couples, single males, and single females. The Friday admission is $50 for couples, $100 for single males, and $20 for single females.

They are open on Saturdays from 9 pm to 3 am for couples and single females only. The Friday admission is $100 for couples and $20 for single females.

There is also a Saturday pool party that runs from 11 am to 5 pm which is free for those staying at the hotel. For others it is $30 for couples, single women are free and single men are not allowed to attend.

In addition to the attendance fees, there is a membership fee that you have to pay. This fee is $50/year for couples, $20/year for single females, and $100/year for single men.

There can be a totally different vibe on the nights when there are single men as opposed to Saturdays when they are not allowed. Even though we usually don’t play with single men, my wife likes to put on a show for them. She is not alone in this attitude.

So if you go and stay Friday and Saturday night, you get to experience the resort in two different ways. The Friday with the single men there and the Saturday that is couples and single women only. Both nights can be fun but different.

New Jersey Swinger Groups

A great alternative to swinger clubs and swinger resorts is New Jersey swinger groups. These groups do not have dedicated facilities but will often utilize private facilities or takeover whole hotels or parts of hotels to put on events. These events can be pretty wild and a lot of fun.

If you are looking to connect with other swinger couples than these events can often be an easy way to connect with other couples actively looking to play in your area.

Samantha’s Stable

New Jersey swinger groups Samantha's stable
Samantha’s Stable Event listing as found on SLS (SwingLifestyle)

Monroeville, NJ 
https://www.samanthasstable.com/

This is a New Jersey swinger group that specializes in connecting swinger couples with specific groups of single swinger men. They specifically mention that this is for heterosexual men only.

Samantha’s Stable puts on events at local hotels utilizing multiple rooms. In order to see the list of upcoming events, you will need to join SLS (SwingLifestyle) which is basically a must if you are going to be active in the swinger lifestyle.

You can then use your SLS (SwingLifestyle) username to sign up for upcoming events.

If you are part of a couple and are looking to spice things up for the Mrs by bringing another man into the equation then Samantha’s Stable may be worth a shot.

Curvy and Fabulous Events

New Jersey swinger groups Curvy and Fabulous
Curvy and Fabulous Event listing as found on SLS (SwingLifestyle)

Hazlet, NJ
http://curvyandfabulous.com/

This is a fantastic New Jersey swinger group that specializes in events geared towards “Curvy, full figured and BBW couples”. These are some of the hottest swinger couples out there. This group has hotel takeovers and events in the New Jersey, New York, and Pennsylvania areas.

These events can be an incredible opportunity to meet up with other swinger couples and enjoy a weekend. You usually get to use the hotel facilities and they set up all kinds of fun stuff like comedy shows, adult playrooms, and more for swinger fun.

This type of event is one of the best ways to meet up with another swinger couple for some swapping fun or even just some voyeurism. People at these events are fun to meet and really respect your boundaries.

Tickets for these events are very reasonable. You can usually get tickets for a Friday and Saturday event for around $80-$90 for a couple. Single-day tickets are even less expensive. This does not include your hotel room but they usually have special rates on those as well.

The Secret Society Of NY&NJ

Perth Amboy, NJ
https://thesecretsocietyof8.wixsite.com/website

Another New Jersey swinger group that teams up with clubs and other groups on hotel takeovers. Some of their events are in New York and some are in New Jersey.

Sign up through their website to receive information on events including hotel takeovers. Most events are listed on SLS (SwingLifestyle) so this is the best way to sign up and meet other members that are going to these events.

We have utilized SLS (SwingLifestyle) to connect with other couples attending hotel takeovers by the Secret Society of NY and NJ. These connections have led to some great swaps.

These hotel takeovers have playrooms and all amenities of many swinger resorts. These are really worth checking out.

MistyLuvBlu

Union Beach, NJ
https://sites.google.com/view/misty-blue/home

This is a New Jersey swinger group that puts on hotel events and private swinger parties. Listed hotel events take over an entire floor of the hotel and set up multiple adult playrooms for fun.

I have not personally attended any of their events but this type of event can be a lot of fun.

Major Online Sites for New Jersey Swingers

There are two major online sites that New Jersey Swingers should be checking out if they want to seriously get involved in the swinger scene. These sites are SLS (SwingLifestyle) and AFF (Adult Friend Finder).

Both of these sites are free to join and check out. By becoming active in these sites, you can connect with other local swingers to find out what is going on.

SLS is probably the most popular site and AFF is probably the more visual site. I would recommend SLS more for making swinger event connections.

SLS (SwingLifeStyle)

Swingers
SwingLifeStyle.com

SLS is by far the biggest and most popular website for New Jersey swingers. There is just a ton of information available on the site. You can search for local events and search for local swingers. There is just a ton of information here.

This is the website where most New Jersey swinger clubs, New Jersey swinger resorts, and New Jersey swinger group post all of their events. You can connect with other members going to these events ahead of time.

This website is free to join and check out but you will need to upgrade to use all of the messaging functions. SLS (SwingLifestyle) is basically a must for swingers that will be attending events and is the number one site I would recommend.

Adult Friend Finder

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http://adultfriendfinder.com/

Adult Friend Finder is quite different than SLS (SwingLifestyle). It is more geared toward making individual connections with other swingers and not at meeting others at events or clubs. I much prefer SLS (SwingLifestyle) but some really love AFF.

Users tend to post a lot more pictures on AFF but I find that the SLS users tend to play fewer games than AFF users. But it is a matter of personal preference. AFF is free to join but you have to pay to upgrade and use the messaging features.

Men’s Swinger Concerns

You will find a ton of articles out there addressing the concerns of women about enjoying the swinger lifestyle but very few about the concerns of men. I remember the concerns that I had before entering the lifestyle and how little information I found about how to seriously treat these concerns.

So whether you are looking at making your first visits to New Jersey swinger clubs, New Jersey swinger resorts, or even events by New Jersey swinger groups, you should address your concerns.

Fears of Seeing your Partner with Another Man

Ok, this is a big one. We all have that fear of what if she just enjoys it too much. What if she decides that I am inferior to someone else or that I am just not that good.

We all have these fears initially but as men, we just put too much into it. For women as well as men, being turned on is more about the mental aspects than the physical aspects. So her enjoyment will have more to do with the situation than with the other man.

What she will remember is that you had the confidence and concern about her enjoyment that let her have the fun. Do not let your jealousy or self-doubt get in the way of her enjoyment. If you can do this, she will associate her enjoyment with you.

If you can’t do this then maybe the swinging lifestyle is not for you. Being a swinger is more about bringing pleasure to others than bringing pleasure to yourself.

Erection Quality and the Swinger Lifestyle

A really big thing that really bothered me before joining the swinger lifestyle was erection quality. I suffered from fairly severe erectile dysfunction and I was not comfortable becoming a swinger when I was such a poor performer in my eyes.

First of all, you can be a successful swinger even with poor erection quality. It is common for couples to be soft swap only (meaning no penetrative sex). We all know that oral sex can be the best experience and that there are tons of new things to explore without having to get a firm erection.

That being said poor erection quality can be a major problem. It can indicate other serious health conditions, so be sure to see a doctor as it could save your life. Additionally, I know from personal experience that erectile dysfunction takes a huge mental toll on a man.

I could not get over this in order to enjoy the swinger lifestyle. I knew that my wife would love me no matter what but I couldn’t mentally deal with the thought of her getting nailed by another guy while I couldn’t even get it up.

I tried everything to treat my erectile dysfunction including prescription pills, supplements, and even prescription injections (ouch!!) with little success. When I was about to give up, I finally discovered acoustic wave therapy with the Phoenix device. This treatment changed my life around.

This device utilizes patented FDA-registered tech and it just worked for me when everything else had failed. If you want to have quality erections again, don’t give up without trying the Phoenix. It gave me the confidence to embrace the swinger lifestyle.

Penis Size and the Swinge Lifestyle

Another big concern that men have is that they will not measure up to other men when it comes to penis size. First of all, men put way too much thought and worry into the penis size issue. That being said, I am not going to be like everyone else and just dismiss the issue. It can be a valid concern on the part of men and it is unfair to just say don’t worry about it.

Most women do not put penis size at the top of their lists when picking a sexual partner. They are usually much more concerned with looks, physique, sense of humor, and overall personality. But studies have shown that penis size is a factor for many women when picking sexual partners.

Additionally, if you start going to New Jersey swinger clubs or New Jersey swinger resorts somewhere else, what you encounter is probably not going to make you feel better about your penis size.

We have found that publicly nude swingers tend to have a larger penis than what you would normally find in the general population. We believe that this is because those with a larger penis feel more confident about putting themselves out there at these places. The big penis gives them the confidence to show it off.

To find out more about this check out the article Penis Size at Nudist Resorts for more information.

You have two options if you have these worries about penis size. The first and best option is to just try to get over it. It is not a major factor for most women and your partner is not going to leave you for a bigger penis. Your self-confidence is much more important than a huge penis.

If you can’t get over it, there is actually a way to increase your penis size. No matter what anyone says, this has been proven in scientific research papers. This is not through the use of magic pills, lotions, or any other quick and easy fix.

The use of penis traction devices is the only way that works but it takes time and effort. To be clear, you will not double your size of anything close to that. If you put in months of effort, you may gain about an inch of length and some girth.

To find out more about penis traction devices be sure to read Do Penis Traction Devices work? This article contains information about the devices, scientific studies about the devices, and my personal results using the devices.