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New York Swinger Clubs and Swinger Resorts: Lifestyle fun in the Empire State

New York Swinger Clubs and Swinger Resorts

My wife and I have been active in the swinger lifestyle for a few years now. We love traveling and checking out new spots. For others that may share the same interests, we are putting together a state-by-state guide to local swinger spots.

And that leads to the question, what is available for New York swinger clubs and New York swinger resorts?

In general, New York City has a lot of swinger club options but there are fewer options as you get away from the city. Like many cold-weather states, there are no New York swinger resorts, but there are easy travel options and New York swinger groups that put on resort-type events.

So let’s take a look at what is available for New York swinger clubs and New York swinger resorts. We will give a brief description of these places and what you can expect. We will look at some great alternative destinations for New York swingers and some helpful tips for men that may have some lifestyle concerns.

New York Swinger Clubs, Swinger Resorts, and Other Options

If you are looking for swinger lifestyle venues in New York then you are in luck. These swinger spots are geared towards swinger couples but all accept single women and most accept single men.

The swinger lifestyle that these places promote is the open sexual relationships where couples and singles allow and encourage their partners to have sexual relations with others. If you go to this type of place, you are going to encounter nudity and sexual activity.

There are a bunch of New York swinger clubs available especially in the New York City area. These are not your tiny hole-in-the-wall type clubs but are large full-service swinger clubs with multiple playrooms and other swinger amenities.

While there are no New York swinger resorts, there are some other options that are available to you. There are some naturist nudist resorts in New York, there are travel options, and there are some hotel takeover options.

A great alternative to swinger resorts is the events that are put on by New York swinger groups. These events can include hotel takeovers that can essentially turn a local hotel into a temporary swinger resort.

There are also a few online resources that you can sign up for that make getting started as a swinger much easier. These websites are essential especially if you live in a more rural area without easy access to swinger clubs and events.

There are a ton of articles out there about the insecurities that women feel when starting the swinger lifestyle but very few about what the man feels. We will also take a look at a couple of things that can help a man overcome some of his insecurities.

New York Swinger Resorts

New York Swinger Resorts travel to Hedonism II
The beautiful beach at the Hedonism II swinger resort.

Unfortunately, there are no New York swinger resorts, but there are still a ton of good alternatives that you can use.

Check out the sections below for New York swinger clubs and New York swinger groups. With these two alternatives, you can find an experience that is somewhat similar to a swinger resort experience.

One potential alternative is to check out some New York area nudist resorts for naturists. While these resorts are not sexual like New York swinger clubs or New York swinger group events, they will give you a chance to be nude around others. To learn about these spots check out the article New York Nude Beaches and Resorts: Nude fun in the Empire State.

Another great alternative to New York lifestyle resorts is to travel to a great swinger resort. The most affordable way to do this is to catch a low-cost flight to Florida and check out the many great Florida swinger resorts. If you are an experienced swinger, then maybe it is time to check out the ultimate swinger experience at Hedonism II.

We suggest that you check out the swinger resort experience. For us, it is a much more relaxing and enjoyable experience than the swinger clubs. There is something about just getting away and relaxing by the pool.

When you meet other swingers in this relaxing and sexually charged environment, it just leads to everyone dropping their inhibitions and bringing out their playful side. We have just had so many great sexual experiences at these resorts that we have not had anywhere else.

Be sure to treat yourself and try out these resorts at some point. You will not regret it.

On-Site New York Swinger Clubs

The good news is that there are a ton of great New York lifestyle clubs. The bad news is that they are almost all located right in the New York City area. So this is great if you live in the city but not so great if you live elsewhere.

The great part of these clubs is that they give New York swingers a chance to get into the swinger lifestyle without having to travel out of the state. The listed New York swinger clubs all have adult playrooms for on-site sexual activity and play. You can visit these clubs and have an incredible swinger experience.

If you are not familiar with adult playrooms and how they work, be sure to check out our Swinger Playroom Guide.

The bad news is that many of these clubs are expensive especially if you do not live in the New York City area. When you take into account the cost of a New York City hotel and the high entry fees to the clubs, it is usually about the same as flying to Florida and staying at a swinger resort for the weekend.

If you live in the area of the clubs then it is a different story, by visiting these clubs you can meet many local swingers and establish some fun relationships. So like most things, it all comes down to your personal preferences.

Caligula

40-19 20th Ave,
Astoria, NY 11105
(516) 301-7800
http://www.caligulany.com/

Caligula is an upscale New York lifestyle club located in Astoria. This club requires membership and is open to both couples and singles. Club amenities include a BYOB bar with mixers, a dancefloor, private and semi-private adult playrooms, free light buffet and snacks, and private rooms.

Caligula is open on Thursday from 9 pm to 3 am, Friday and Saturday from 9 pm to 4 am, and Sunday from 9 pm to 3 am.

Membership is required and there is a membership fee of $20 for couples or singles. Membership is free for SLS (SwingerLifeStyle) members. This is a great deal as SLS membership is free and is a must-have for those in the swinger lifestyle.

In addition to membership, there is an entry fee for the night to enter the club. Entry fees for couples are $65 to $80 depending on the day. Entry fees for single ladies are $25 every day. Entry fees for single men are $80 to $100 depending on the day.

Labyrinth

Park Ave S,
New York, NY 10010
(646) 868-2100
https://clublabyrinth.com/

This is a member’s only New York swingers club located in Manhattan and is open to couples and singles. The club amenities include group playrooms, semi-private areas, lounge areas, play stations, smoking space, and a BYOB bar.

This club is open Tuesday through Thursday from 9 pm to 2 am, Friday and Saturday from 9 pm to 3 am, and Sunday from 8 pm to 1 am.

Membership for the club is $30 for six months or $40 for a year for a couple or single membership. In addition to the membership, you must pay to attend the club. This entry fee is $20 for single women, $40-$80 for couples depending on the day of the week, and $80-$140 for single men depending on the day of the week.

Checkmate NYC

227 E 56th St, Lower Level
New York, NY 10022
(212) 421-3313
https://www.checkmatenyc.com/

Checkmate is an exclusive members-only club for 21+ New York swingers. You must apply for membership with a recent photo. Checkmate is only open to couples and single women. No single men are allowed. They are exclusive in that they only accept members with a certain look.

Club amenities include a video dance floor, LED dance floor, showers, theme nights every weekend, BYOB bar, cinema playrooms, dark playroom, neon playroom, lounge, private lockers, towel, and robe service, live DJ, mirrored playrooms, private playrooms, and public playrooms.

Open on Thursdays from 7 pm to 1 am, Fridays from 10 pm to 4 am, and Saturdays from 10 pm to 4 am. Pricing seems to vary but expect over $120 for a couple to attend. However, it is free for single women to attend.

Temptations

108 Greenwich St,
New York, NY 10006
(212) 406-9513
http://temptationsnyc.com/

Temptations is another club for 21+ New York swingers. This club is open to couples, single men, and single women. They have different events for every night that they are open. You must visit their website and request to be added to the reservation list for the event you wish to attend.

Club amenities include a BYOB bar, lounge, two floors of fun, private rooms, and open playrooms.

They are closed Mondays, Tuesdays, and Thursdays. They are open on Wednesdays from 9 pm to 3 am, Friday from 9 pm to 4 am, Saturdays from 9 pm to 4 am, and Sundays from 7 pm to 11 pm.

The entry fee varies depending on the events. Entry fee ranges are $60-$80 for couples, $50-$120 for single men, and $0-$50 for single ladies

Subspace

Manhattan, New York
646-535-3032
https://subspaceswingers.com/

Subspace is a 21+ club for New York swingers. This club has limited hours but does admit couples, single men, and single women. You must visit their website and be added to the reservation list for the nights that you wish to attend.

Subspace club is a 3000 sq foot club with amenities including a BYOB bar, group playrooms, a couples-only area, private rooms, a smoking area, a shower, lockers, a state-of-the-art sound system, and a discreet entrance.

They are open on Wednesdays from 3-7 pm and do have offsite events with onsite after parties.

Membership is required to attend is $20/year. The entrance fee to the Wednesday event is $60 for couples, $120 for single men, and free for single ladies.

Badd Kitty Club

3491 W Main St,
Fredonia, NY 14063
(716) 952-9501
http://www.baddkittyclub.com/

This is a member’s only New York swingers club located in western New York. They are a BYOB facility that has eleven adult playrooms, a hot tub, a stripper pole, a dancefloor, snack food, a BYOB bar, and more.

They are open on Saturdays from 08:30 pm to 02:30 am. Membership is required to attend the events. Fees vary based on the event.

SLS (SwingerLifeStyle) membership is required to join the Badd Kitty Club membership list. SLS (SwingerLifeStyle is a free-to-join group and is a must-have for those in the swinger lifestyle.

New York Swinger Groups

New York swinger groups are organizations that put on events but do not have a physical location that they own and operate. They will put on swinger events at other venues that are called takeovers. They take over a hotel or bar to put on their swinger event.

These takeover events at local hotels can basically create small New York singer resorts for a weekend. They can have everything including nude pools, nude hot tubs, adult playrooms, dungeons, and more.

Some of these groups are just promoting travel packages and do not put on many events so be careful before paying for any memberships. This being said, these New York swinger groups have some hotel takeovers and club takeovers that can be a blast.

Many of these groups encourage SLS (SwingLifeStyle) membership (which is free to join) in order to actively participate. Joining SLS (SwingLifeStyle) is pretty much a necessity if you want to mingle with swingers in your area.

SLS (SwingLifeStyle) also makes it easy to search for upcoming takeover events put on by New York swinger groups. Once you join, you can search for local club events, group events, and parties. SLS swinger event results are even sorted by distance from your location.

My personal suggestion would be to join SLS (SwingLifeStyle) and search for events from there. This will give you the chance to see which clubs are truly the most active in your area.

The People’s Party
Babylon, NY
https://swing67.wixsite.com/thepeoplesparty

Syracuse Social Club
Liverpool, NY
https://www.syracusesocialclub.com/sessions/new

Tri City – BBW + Friends
Albany, NY
https://tricity-bbw.charldine.club/bbws/

Alexa4fun
Latham, NY
https://alexa4fun.com/

ShareNation Events
Albany, NY
https://sharenationevents.com/sessions/new

My Frisky Business
Babylon, NY
https://myfriskybusiness.net/

Forbidden Pleasures Club
Rochester, NY
http://forbiddenpleasuresclub.com/

THE HAMPTONS PARTY
HAMPTON BAYS, NY
https://thehamptonsparty.com/

Lethal Seduction Swingers Club
Brooklyn, NY
https://lethalseductioninc.wixsite.com/lifestyle

Major Online Sites for New York Swingers

There are two major online sites that New York Swingers should be checking out if they want to seriously get involved in the swinger scene. These sites are SLS (SwingerLifeStyle) and AFF (Adult Friend Finder).

Both of these sites are free to join and check out. By becoming active in these sites, you can connect with other local swingers to find out what is going on.

SLS is probably the most popular site and AFF is probably the more visual site. I would recommend SLS more for making swinger event connections.

SLS (SwingLifeStyle)

https://swinglifestyle.com

SLS is by far the biggest and most popular website for New York swingers. There is just a ton of information available on the site. You can search for local events and search for local swingers. There is just a ton of information here.

This website is free to join and check out but you will need to upgrade to use all of the messaging functions.

Both New York swinger clubs and New York swinger groups use SLS as a major way to communicate with swingers.

The website can be a little difficult to figure out at first but once you do it is the best source of information on the swinger lifestyle.

There is always a ton of swingers online at SLS. If this is the lifestyle for you, then you need to try out SLS.

Adult Friend Finder

http://adultfriendfinder.com/

Another great option for New York swingers to hook up with other swinger individuals and couples is Adult Friend Finder. This website allows people to create their profiles and find local matches with people with similar sexual lifestyle interests in your area or any area of the world.

It is not perfect and there are still a lot of profiles to wade through but it is a great way for swingers to meet up. While this website is not generally used by New York swinger clubs and New York swinger groups, it is my favorite way to meet local swingers for non-club or non-event hookups.

Couples or singles can search by location, sexual preference, age, or numerous other factors. Gives you different options to chat and make friends with similar sexual choices. If you want to find others with similar sexual interests, then this is a great place to start.

It is free to join and check out what is going on at AdultFriendFinder.

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Men’s Swinger Concerns

You will find a ton of articles out there addressing the concerns of women about enjoying the swinger lifestyle but very few about the concerns of men. I remember the concerns that I had before entering the lifestyle and how little information I found about how to seriously treat these concerns.

So whether you are looking at making your first visits to New York swinger clubs, New York swinger resorts, or even events by New York singer groups, you should address your concerns.

You will find that as men we have concerns and stresses that we put on ourselves that are not always rational. We worry about things that may not even cross our partner’s minds. This does not mean that you are weird for having these concerns because you are definitely not alone.

The big thing is not to let these concerns prevent you from enjoying the swinger lifestyle if that is what you really want to do. Look into your fears. You will find that you can overcome them or even do something about them.

Fears of Seeing your Partner with Another Man

Ok, this is a big one. We all have that fear of what if she just enjoys it too much. What if she decides that I am inferior to someone else or that I am just not that good.

We all have these fears initially but as men, we just put too much into it. For women as well as men, being turned on is more about the mental aspects than the physical aspects. So her enjoyment will have more to do with the situation than with the other man.

What she will remember is that you had the confidence and concern about her enjoyment that let her have the fun. Do not let your jealousy or self-doubt get in the way of her enjoyment. If you can do this, she will associate her enjoyment with you.

If you always put her enjoyment first without your concerns, she will find that very sexy and attractive. Accept that she will find new men stimulating because we all find new experiences and people exciting. Accept that she may act more excited about doing something new with someone new to be more exciting than doing the same thing with you for the thousandth time.

If you can do this, you will find that you bring all kinds of new fun into your sex life. You will find that you get sexually stimulated when she feels excitement. This will carry forward into your sex life even when it is just the two of you.

If you can’t do this then maybe the swinging lifestyle is not for you. Being a swinger is more about bringing pleasure to others than bringing pleasure to yourself.

Erection Quality and the Swinger Lifestyle

A really big thing that really bothered me before joining the swinger lifestyle was erection quality. I suffered from fairly severe erectile dysfunction and I was not comfortable becoming a swinger when I was such a poor performer in my eyes.

First of all, you can be a successful swinger even with poor erection quality. It is common for couples to be soft swap only (meaning no penetrative sex). We all know that oral sex can be the best experience and that there are tons of new things to explore without having to get a firm erection.

That being said poor erection quality can be a major problem. It can indicate other serious health conditions so be sure to see a doctor as it could save your life. Additionally, I know from personal experience that erectile dysfunction takes a huge mental toll on a man.

I could not get over this in order to enjoy the swinger lifestyle. I knew that my wife would love me no matter what but I couldn’t mentally deal with the thought of her getting nailed by another guy while I couldn’t even get it up.

I tried everything to treat my erectile dysfunction including prescription pills, supplements, and even prescription injections (ouch!!) with little success. When I was about to give up, I finally discovered acoustic wave therapy with the Phoenix device. This treatment changed my life around.

This device utilizes patented FDA-registered tech and it just worked for me when everything else had failed. If you want to have quality erections again, don’t give up without trying the Phoenix. It gave me the confidence to embrace the swinger lifestyle.

Penis Size and the Swinge Lifestyle

Another big concern that men have is that they will not measure up to other men when it comes to penis size. First of all, men put way too much thought and worry into the penis size issue. That being said, I am not going to be like everyone else and just dismiss the issue. It can be a valid concern on the part of men and it is unfair to just say don’t worry about it.

Most women do not put penis size at the top of their lists when picking a sexual partner. They are usually much more concerned with looks, physique, sense of humor, and overall personality. But studies have shown that penis size is a factor for many women when picking sexual partners.

Additionally, if you start going to New York swinger clubs or swinger resorts somewhere else, what you encounter is probably not going to make you feel better about your penis size.

We have found that publicly nude swingers tend to have a larger penis than what you would normally find in the general population. We believe that this is because those with a larger penis feel more confident about putting themselves out there at these places. The big penis gives them the confidence to show it off.

To find out more about this check out the article Penis Size at Nudist Resorts for more information.

You have two options if you have these worries about penis size. The first and best option is to just try to get over it. It is not a major factor for most women and your partner is not going to leave you for a bigger penis. Your self-confidence is much more important than a huge penis.

If you can’t get over it, there is actually a way to increase your penis size. No matter what anyone says, this has been proven in scientific research papers. This is not through the use of magic pills, lotions, or any other quick and easy fix.

The use of penis traction devices is the only way that works but it takes time and effort. To be clear, you will not double your size of anything close to that. If you put in months of effort, you may gain about an inch of length and some girth.

This is the only method that has been scientifically studied and proven to work for penis enlargement. This is not easy and you need to really be committed to the use of these devices in order for it to work. I personally used a device known as the Phallosan Forte and was able to add significant length to my penis.

To find out more about penis traction devices be sure to read Do Penis Traction Devices work? This article contains information about the devices, scientific studies about the devices, and my personal results using the devices.