My wife and I have been active in the swinger lifestyle for a few years now. We love traveling and checking out new spots including New York. And that leads to the question, what is available for New York swinger clubs and New York swinger resorts?
In general, New York City has a lot of swinger club options but there are fewer options as you get away from the city. Like many cold-weather states, there are no New York swinger resorts, but there are easy travel options and New York swinger groups that put on resort-type events.
So let’s take a look at what is available for New York swinger clubs and New York swinger resorts. In addition, there are some great swinger alternatives available. If you are a man that is new to the swinger lifestyle be sure to check out the Important Note To Male New York Swingers section.
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New York Swinger Clubs, Swinger Resorts, and Other Options
If you are looking for swinger lifestyle venues in New York then you are in luck. These swinger spots are geared towards swinger couples but all accept single women and most accept single men.
The swinger lifestyle that these places promote is the open sexual relationship where couples and singles allow and encourage their partners to have sexual relations with others. If you go to this type of place, you are going to encounter nudity and sexual activity.
There are a bunch of New York swinger clubs available especially in the New York City area. These are not your tiny hole-in-the-wall type clubs but are large full-service swinger clubs with multiple playrooms and other swinger amenities.
While there are no New York swinger resorts, there are some other options that are available to you. There are some naturist nudist resorts in New York, there are travel options, and there are some hotel takeover options.
A great alternative to swinger resorts is the events that are put on by New York swinger groups. These events can include hotel takeovers that can essentially turn a local hotel into a temporary swinger resort.
There are also a few online resources that you can sign up for that make getting started as a swinger much easier. These websites are essential especially if you live in a more rural area without easy access to swinger clubs and events.
There are a ton of articles out there about the insecurities that women feel when starting the swinger lifestyle but very few about what the man feels. We will also take a look at a couple of things that can help a man overcome some of his insecurities.
New York Swinger Resorts
Unfortunately, there are no New York swinger resorts, but there are still a ton of good alternatives that you can use.
Check out the sections below for New York swinger clubs and New York swinger groups. With these two alternatives, you can find an experience that is somewhat similar to a swinger resort experience.
One potential alternative is to check out some New York area nudist resorts for naturists. While these resorts are not sexual like New York swinger clubs or New York swinger group events, they will give you a chance to be nude around others.
To learn about these spots check out the article New York Nude Beaches and Resorts. These are not swinger spots so check out Naturist or Swinger Nude Resorts and Beaches for an explanation of the differences between swinger and nudist spots.
We will sometimes meet up with another swinger couple at a nudist resort. After hanging out poolside and at the pool, we will play in private behind closed doors.
Another great alternative to New York lifestyle resorts is to travel to a great swinger resort. The most affordable way to do this is to catch a low-cost flight to Florida and check out the many great Florida swinger resorts. If you are an experienced swinger, then maybe it is time to check out the ultimate swinger experience at Hedonism II.
We suggest that you check out the swinger resort experience. For us, it is a much more relaxing and enjoyable experience than the swinger clubs. There is something about just getting away and relaxing by the pool.
When you meet other swingers in this relaxing and sexually charged environment, it just leads to everyone dropping their inhibitions and bringing out their playful side. We have just had so many great sexual experiences at these resorts that we have not had anywhere else.
Be sure to treat yourself and try out these resorts at some point. You will not regret it.
On-Site New York Swinger Clubs
The good news is that there are a ton of great New York lifestyle clubs. The bad news is that they are almost all located right in the New York City area. So this is great if you live in the city but not so great if you live elsewhere.
The great part of these clubs is that they give New York swingers a chance to get into the swinger lifestyle without having to travel out of the state. The listed New York swinger clubs all have adult playrooms for on-site sexual activity and play. You can visit these clubs and have an incredible swinger experience.
If you are not familiar with adult playrooms and how they work, be sure to check out our Swinger Playroom Guide.
The bad news is that many of these clubs are expensive especially if you do not live in the New York City area. When you take into account the cost of a New York City hotel and the high entry fees to the clubs, it is usually about the same as flying to Florida and staying at a swinger resort for the weekend.
If you live in the area of the clubs then it is a different story, by visiting these clubs you can meet many local swingers and establish some fun relationships. So like most things, it all comes down to your personal preferences.
Additionally, you can find some swinger club options in neighboring Massachusetts, Connecticut, New Jersey, and Pennsylvania.
Caligula
40-19 20th Ave,
Astoria, NY 11105
(516) 301-7800
http://www.caligulany.com/
Caligula is an upscale New York lifestyle club located in Astoria. This club requires membership and is open to both couples and singles. Club amenities include a BYOB bar with mixers, a dancefloor, private and semi-private adult playrooms, free light buffet and snacks, and private rooms.
Caligula is open on Thursday from 9 pm to 3 am, Friday and Saturday from 9 pm to 4 am, and Sunday from 9 pm to 3 am.
Membership is required and there is a membership fee of $20 for couples or singles. Membership is free for SLS (SwingerLifeStyle) members. This is a great deal as SLS membership is free and is a must-have for those in the swinger lifestyle.
In addition to membership, there is an entry fee for the night to enter the club. Entry fees for couples are $65 to $80 depending on the day. Entry fees for single ladies are $25 every day. Entry fees for single men are $80 to $100 depending on the day.
Labyrinth
Park Ave S,
New York, NY 10010
(646) 868-2100
https://clublabyrinth.com/
This is a members only New York swingers club located in Manhattan and is open to couples and singles. The club amenities include group playrooms, semi-private areas, lounge areas, play stations, smoking space, and a BYOB bar.
This club is open Tuesday through Thursday from 9 pm to 2 am, Friday and Saturday from 9 pm to 3 am, and Sunday from 8 pm to 1 am.
Membership for the club is $30 for six months or $40 for a year for a couple or single membership. In addition to the membership, you must pay to attend the club. This entry fee is $20 for single women, $40-$80 for couples depending on the day of the week, and $80-$140 for single men depending on the day of the week.
Checkmate NYC
227 E 56th St, Lower Level
New York, NY 10022
(212) 421-3313
https://www.checkmatenyc.com/
Checkmate is an exclusive members-only club for 21+ New York swingers. You must apply for membership with a recent photo. Checkmate is only open to couples and single women. No single men are allowed. They are exclusive in that they only accept members with a certain look.
Club amenities include a video dance floor, LED dance floor, showers, theme nights every weekend, BYOB bar, cinema playrooms, dark playroom, neon playroom, lounge, private lockers, towel, and robe service, live DJ, mirrored playrooms, private playrooms, and public playrooms.
Open on Thursdays from 7 pm to 1 am, Fridays from 10 pm to 4 am, and Saturdays from 10 pm to 4 am. Pricing seems to vary but expect over $120 for a couple to attend. However, it is free for single women to attend.
Temptations
108 Greenwich St,
New York, NY 10006
(212) 406-9513
http://temptationsnyc.com/
Temptations is another club for 21+ New York swingers. This club is open to couples, single men, and single women. They have different events for every night that they are open. You must visit their website and request to be added to the reservation list for the event you wish to attend.
Club amenities include a BYOB bar, lounge, two floors of fun, private rooms, and open playrooms.
They are closed Mondays, Tuesdays, and Thursdays. They are open on Wednesdays from 9 pm to 3 am, Fridays from 9 pm to 4 am, Saturdays from 9 pm to 4 am, and Sundays from 7 pm to 11 pm.
The entry fee varies depending on the events. Entry fee ranges are $60-$80 for couples, $50-$120 for single men, and $0-$50 for single ladies
Subspace
Manhattan, New York
646-535-3032
https://subspaceswingers.com/
Subspace is a 21+ club for New York swingers. This club has limited hours but does admit couples, single men, and single women. You must visit their website and be added to the reservation list for the nights that you wish to attend.
Subspace club is a 3000 sq foot club with amenities including a BYOB bar, group playrooms, a couples-only area, private rooms, a smoking area, a shower, lockers, a state-of-the-art sound system, and a discreet entrance.
They are open on Wednesdays from 3-7 pm and do have offsite events with onsite after-parties.
Membership is required to attend is $20/year. The entrance fee to the Wednesday event is $60 for couples, $120 for single men, and free for single ladies.
Badd Kitty Club
3491 W Main St,
Fredonia, NY 14063
(716) 952-9501
http://www.baddkittyclub.com/
This is a member-only New York swingers club located in western New York. They are a BYOB facility that has eleven adult playrooms, a hot tub, a stripper pole, a dancefloor, snack food, a BYOB bar, and more.
They are open on Saturdays from 08:30 pm to 02:30 am. Membership is required to attend the events. Fees vary based on the event.
SLS (SwingerLifeStyle) membership is required to join the Badd Kitty Club membership list. SLS (SwingerLifeStyle is a free-to-join group and is a must-have for those in the swinger lifestyle.
New York Swinger Groups
New York swinger groups are organizations that put on events but do not have a physical location that they own and operate. They will put on swinger events at other venues that are called takeovers. They take over a hotel or bar to put on their swinger event.
These takeover events at local hotels can basically create small New York singer resorts for a weekend. They can have everything including nude pools, nude hot tubs, adult playrooms, dungeons, and more.
Some of these groups are just promoting travel packages and do not put on many events so be careful before paying for any memberships. This being said, these New York swinger groups have some hotel takeovers and club takeovers that can be a blast.
Many of these groups encourage SLS (SwingLifeStyle) membership (which is free to join) in order to actively participate. Joining SLS (SwingLifeStyle) is pretty much a necessity if you want to mingle with swingers in your area.
The People’s Party
Babylon, NY
https://swing67.wixsite.com/thepeoplesparty
Syracuse Social Club
Liverpool, NY
https://www.syracusesocialclub.com/sessions/new
Tri City – BBW + Friends
Albany, NY
https://tricity-bbw.charldine.club/bbws/
Alexa4fun
Latham, NY
https://alexa4fun.com/
ShareNation Events
Albany, NY
https://sharenationevents.com/sessions/new
My Frisky Business
Babylon, NY
https://myfriskybusiness.net/
Forbidden Pleasures Club
Rochester, NY
http://forbiddenpleasuresclub.com/
THE HAMPTONS PARTY
HAMPTON BAYS, NY
https://thehamptonsparty.com/
Lethal Seduction Swingers Club
Brooklyn, NY
https://lethalseductioninc.wixsite.com/lifestyle
Meeting Up With New York Swingers
There are a couple of online sites that people can use to help set up meetings with other swingers at New York swinger clubs. These sites are SLS (SwingLifestyle) and AFF (Adult Friend Finder). We use these sites to meet the couples that we hook up with at the swinger clubs, swinger resorts, and sometimes just on our own.
SLS (SwingLifeStyle)
SwingLifeStyle.com
SLS is by far the biggest and most popular website for New York swingers. This is the website where New York swinger clubs and New York swinger groups post all of their events. You can connect with other members that are going to these events ahead of time.
This website is free to join and check out but you will need to upgrade to use all of the messaging functions. SLS (SwingLifestyle) is a must for swingers that will be attending events and is the number one site I would recommend.
Adult Friend Finder
Adult Friend Finder is quite different than SLS (SwingLifestyle). It is more geared toward making individual connections with other swingers and not at meeting others at events or clubs. AFF users tend to post a lot more public pictures. We use AFF to set up one on one swinger dates outside of events.
Important Note To Male New York Swingers
When my wife and I first started in the swinger lifestyle, we found all kinds of articles dealing with the fears and insecurities of women but very little for men. I found that with many swinger couples, the woman has the confidence and the swinger drive while the man has major worries that hold him back.
I had to personally deal with these issues before I could go to places like New York swinger clubs and New York swinger resorts. Once I did, I fully embraced the lifestyle and never looked back.
Erection Quality in the Swinger Lifestyle
Having fun in the swinger lifestyle is hard when you are worried about maintaining your erection. This was a problem that I had at one point. The libido was there and I wanted to perform but I could not get the erection that I needed.
If you have any concerns about erection quality, check out this article on at-home acoustic wave therapy. The Hollywood elite has used this type of revolutionary treatment for years. The Phoenix Device let me get rock-hard erections that gave me the confidence for the swinger lifestyle.
Penis Size and the Swinger Lifestyle
Like many men, I had always been worried about my penis size. When my wife wanted to get involved in the swinger lifestyle, my penis size anxiety increased.
Check out The Truth About Swinger Penis Size for information on this delicate subject. What is the average swinger’s penis size, does penis size matter to swingers, how to make your penis appear bigger, and how to make your penis bigger (yes, this is scientifically possible with a little catch).
The Swinger Inferiority Fear
This fear had a lot to do with the previous two issues but I was very worried that my wife would find me sexually inferior after dabbling in the swinger lifestyle. Would my jealousies and insecurities get in the way of our having a fun time?
Read Male Swinger Insecurities for the story of how I overcame these fears.