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A GUIDE FOR SWINGER COUPLES

Swinger Playroom Guide: Tips and rules for newbie fun

Swinger Playroom Guide Group Play bed at Rooftop Resort
Group Playroom at the Rooftop Resort in Florida

So you are looking at taking your first trip to a swinger playroom and you are not sure what to expect. My wife and I have visited a bunch of these places and they can be a source of great fun but we remember our anxiety before our first visit. To help, we have put together this swinger playroom guide.

In general, a swinger playroom is a room or group of rooms dedicated to facilitating adult swinger activity. These rooms are usually found at swinger resorts, swinger cruises, and some swinger clubs. Typical playrooms may have group sex areas, voyeur areas, side-by-side play areas, and more.

While this can be a lot of fun, it is often intimidating for first-time visitors. In this swinger playroom guide, we will go into more detail about what to expect, and what swinger playroom rules you will generally encounter.

What is a Swinger Playroom?

Swinger playrooms are rooms designed with the amenities for swingers to play (have sexual activity). These rooms are arranged for all kinds of activities like gang bangs, voyeurism, side-by-side play, and pretty much whatever you can imagine.

Swinger Playroom Guide Sex Swing
Sex Swing in a playroom

Many of these rooms have furnishings to enhance the sexual experience like sex swings. Some rooms are group rooms with large beds or multiple beds pushed together for group play. Some are smaller rooms with one or two small beds. These rooms often have windows so that others can look in on the activity.

These small rooms with two beds are designed for side-by-side play or same room couple swaps. When a playroom is hopping, there are all kinds of different activities happening.

Playrooms are a great way for new couples to see what goes on in the swinger lifestyle. No one is made to join in and it is perfectly acceptable to just watch for a while and find out what you are comfortable with. Check out the New Swinger Couple Hook-Up Guide for info on new swinger couples using playrooms.

If you are interested in checking out any sexual fantasy, the playroom is a great place to start. This can be great if you are nervous talking to new people or are unsure about what you want to try.

Swinger Playroom Guide Couples Only Playroom

Some playrooms are for couples and females only. Other playrooms are open to single men in addition to couples and single females. If you are a couple interested in adding a single male, it is really easy to find some men in the playrooms that allow single men.

You will find a great degree of variance in how well playrooms at different locations are run. Some are well monitored and well cleaned throughout the night/day. Others are not so much and rely on the good behavior of the users.

In our years of visiting playrooms, we have not encountered much in the way of bad behavior. But we have found several playrooms that we were uncomfortable with due to cleanliness issues. Be sure to check out reviews for more info before visiting.

Resorts and Clubs with Swinger Playrooms

Below is a list of a bunch of resorts that have playrooms to try out. Each entry is linked to a review that will give you more info on the individual resort.

The Rooftop Resort in Hollywood, Florida

Secret Hideaway in Kissimmee, Florida

Caliente in Land O Lakes, Florida

Paradise Lakes in Lutz, Florida

Hedonism II in Negril, Jamaica

Swinger Playroom Rules

A lot of the uncertainty and nervousness that newbie swinger couples feel when visiting a playroom for the first time is due to one issue. That issue is that they are unfamiliar with these playrooms’ rules and expected behavior.

The rules are fairly simple and easy to remember.

1. The Biggest Swinger Playroom Rule – No always means no

Just because someone is in an adult playroom, it does not mean they want to have sex with you. You must always get permission before even touching another person in the playroom. Failure to follow this simple rule will get you kicked out incredibly fast.

No one is going to get mad at you if you ask, “Can I join?” But accept that if they say no, you can not join in. Sometimes if you just stand, watch and show interest, you will be invited to join but there is no guarantee of this.

Remember, some people are only there to put on a show and they have no interest in bringing someone else into the fun. Others are looking for something specific and you may not fit the bill.

For example, many couples enjoy putting on a show and would gladly invite in a single female but have no interest in a single male or even another couple.

If you have any doubt that you are invited, then wait until you are sure. You can simply ask.

When someone is seen pushing too hard to join (usually some single man), they usually get rejected by everyone for the rest of the night.

I know my wife has found a guy to be somewhat attractive but once he becomes aggressive or pushy she is all done with him. He will of lost his chance for the time of his life.

2. You Can Always Watch

In an adult playroom, it is perfectly acceptable to watch. You do not need to get permission. The main reason for most couples to go to playrooms is that they enjoy being watched.

This is great. Outside of a playroom staring at a woman and masturbating will get you arrested. Inside a playroom, it is encouraged behavior. Once again, do not enter someone’s personal space without being invited but feel free to look.

Watching can always lead to more. The first time my wife and I brought another man into a threesome, it was not planned. We were in a playroom and putting on a show.

A guy was staring at my wife and was obviously interested. When I noticed how excited it was making her, I asked her if she wanted him to join. When she said yes, I motioned for him to come over and my wife had the night of her life.

The same goes for couples. We have received many invites to join other couples after watching other couples. It does help to show your interest in the couple that you are watching in order to get an invite.

3. Assume You Need a Condom

Swinger playroom rules bring a condom

Condom use is expected in swinger playrooms when having sex with new partners. Unless your new partners have expressly given you permission to go bareback then you should plan on wearing a condom.

Due to the nature of being a swinger, most swingers are very concerned about unprotected sex. It is a practice that would definitely not be sustainable.

Wearing a condom should not only be considered one of the swinger playroom rules but should just be what you do all the time as a swinger.

4. Even Orgies Require an Invite

Swinger Playroom Guide Orgy Picture

This may seem like a repeat of swinger playroom rules #1 but it is a little different. Sometimes you will come across a large group involved in an orgy or gangbang. It may seem that everyone is just joining in but that is probably not the case.

You will have no idea of what was discussed before everything started. Just like with smaller groups, it is important to ask if it is ok to join. Make sure that there is no room for misunderstanding. If everyone is having fun, you will likely receive the invite to join in.

5. The Door to the Swinger Playroom

Many large playroom areas have multiple little playrooms inside. These rooms often contain one or two beds. Usually, they will have a window that faces out to the main playroom area. In addition, these rooms may have doors or curtains at the entryway.

This part of the swinger playroom guide addresses what the different positions of these doors mean.

Closed – This means do not enter the room. If there is a window, you can look through the window but do not go into the room.

Partly Closed – This rule only applies to the little rooms that do not have windows. A partly closed door means it is ok to peek inside the door but still not enter the room.

Open Door – An open door means that it is ok to enter the room and watch. Remember, this does not give you permission to join or touch. It is ok to stand in the room and watch or if there is another bed in the room, it is ok to enter and start using that bed.

6. No Phones

One of the swinger playroom rules that is important to almost everyone is that no phones are allowed in the playroom. Most swingers do not want their pictures showing up on the internet somewhere. Many have friends, children, and family that are unaware of their extracurricular activities.

Out of respect to these people, do not bring in any phones or any type of recording devices into the swinger playrooms. Even if your intentions are innocent, no one else would be certain so that just makes people uncomfortable and can just ruin the whole atmosphere.

Most resorts and clubs ban cellphones under their specific swinger playroom rules that they will have posted at the entrance.

7. No One Likes the Drunken Fool

When visiting a swinger playroom, it is ok to have a couple of drinks ahead of time. It can be part of having fun and loosening up before going. But nobody wants to deal with a loud obnoxious drunk in the playroom.

Some posted swinger playroom rules even mention that visibly intoxicated people are not allowed in.

The main thing to remember is that people are here to have fun and explore sexuality and no one is at their sexual best when completely drunk. Everyone wants to see and experience the sexual energy and not listen to the belligerent drunk.

Every swinger female that I have ever talked to has no interest in hooking up with some completely drunk guy. It seems to be a turn-off for them. Most guys are a little less picky, of course.

8. Women Rule the Swinger Playroom

Swinger Playroom guide women rule picture

Much like the swinger lifestyle in general, women rule the swinger playroom. Women are the main characters in most swinger relationships. They tend to be the ones that give permission for things to happen.

When someone asks if it is ok to join, they are usually asking the woman. It is just that the swinger woman is a much rarer commodity (as part of a couple or especially if single) than a swinger guy. People recognize this fact and women are expected to be treated accordingly.

9. Know Where You Are Aiming It

Not every woman wants your cum on them. Some do and others don’t. The only way to know is to ask. So another one of the swinger playroom rules is to only cum on someone if they ask you to or you ask them if it ok.

Do not assume that just because their partner cums on them that it is ok for you to as well. Many women are perfectly fine with their husband putting a load on their face but will freak out if you get some on their leg.

This should be completely understandable in the day and age. If you are getting a blowjob, it is common courtesy to announce that you are going to cum. This gives the woman a chance to decide if she wants it in her mouth or wants to pull away.

She is doing you a good favor so letting her know is the least you can do.

10. Good Swinger Playroom Hygiene

Everyone appreciates good hygiene when meeting new people in the swinger playroom. Nobody wants to hook up with someone that is overly stinky. A lot of these playrooms are in resorts located in hot tropical climates so it is easy to work up a sweat.

Many playrooms offer nearby showers or even group showers in the playrooms. It doesn’t hurt sometimes to hit the showers before and after visiting the playrooms.

You don’t want to turn off your potential partners before you even get started.

11. Clean Up After Yourselves

Each different swinger playroom has different rules for cleaning up after yourselves. All reputable playrooms require some sort of coverings on the beds of the playrooms.

Some establishments have attendants that change out linen for you. A lot of these have sheets on the bed and you pull up the corners of the sheets when you are done. This signals the attendants to come and change out the linens before someone else uses the bed.

Other playrooms leave it up to the swingers to grab their own linens and put them on their beds. Usually, they have a shelf near the entrance of the playroom that has folded clean sheets. You are then supposed to use the clean sheets to cover the beds or wherever you sit in the playrooms.

Once you are done with whatever fun you have in the playroom, you are expected to then pick up your sheets and deposit them into a laundry bin.

The final way that we have seen this done is the towel method. Everyone is expected to use a towel whenever they sit down or lay down anywhere. Some places provide towels for you and others expect you to use your own towels.

Whatever method of clean-up is in use at the playroom that you are visiting, make sure that you do your best to maintain the place as best you can.

My wife enjoys herself in the playrooms that are kept really clean. It is a lot more fun when you are not worried about where you are sitting or laying down.

12. Make Room For Others

On busy nights, the playrooms can be extremely busy so be courteous to others. Once your group is done in a playroom, you should move on in short order to make room for others.

If the playroom is busy and you want to talk and laugh after all the action then you should head back out poolside. My wife and I like going back out to the hot tub to hang out after we are done in the playroom.

This is more of common courtesy as opposed to being one of the swinger playroom rules. Of course, this doesn’t mean that you have to leave completely. You can just free up the bed and move on to check out the other action.

Just do whatever you can do to make sure everyone gets a turn to have some fun in the playroom.

Any Other Swinger Playroom Guide Suggestions

That concludes our swinger playroom guide list of rules. We hope that you found it helpful and we will try to keep it updated as we go along. If you have any rules that you think we missed, please add them in the comment section. We will monitor these and add them to the list.

We hope to meet you in a swinger playroom sometime soon.