I recently saw a swinger post about what was the”One fantasy in the swinger lifestyle that has been the most difficult to experience?” Almost across the board, the answer was to have a swinger threesome with a single woman. So how do you find your Unicorn and make your FMF or FFM fantasy come true?
We are not going to sugarcoat it. It is not easy to find an Unicorn for your swinger threesome with a single woman but it is not impossible. There are several things you can do to up your chances. Some are harder than others and you might be surprised by our top method.
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What is a Unicorn?
As guys, we all fantasize about finding a single woman for a threesome with our partner. After all, if one woman is so incredible, two must be even better. Unfortunately, this can be the most difficult fantasy of all to fulfill in the swinger lifestyle.
Due to the rarity of these single women in the swinger lifestyle, they are often referred to as Unicorns. However, they do exist in the swinger lifestyle and they may not be quite as hard to find as you may think.
There are a couple of types of swinger threesomes with single women. The two main categories that swinger couples look for are FMF threesomes and FFM threesomes.
The FMF threesomes are the type where the single woman interacts sexually with the male half of the couple. The single woman may also sexually interact with the woman of the couple as well but not necessarily.
The FFM threesome is when the main sexual interaction between the Unicorn and the woman of the couple. There may be some interaction between the male and single female in the threesome but that is not the main draw of the interaction.
It is important to communicate what you are looking for when talking to a single woman for your threesome. You do not want to go into the threesome with a single woman looking to have sex with a female partner if she is straight and has no interest.
How to have a swinger threesome with a single woman
There are a few tactics you can use to increase your chances of having a threesome with a single woman. All of these strategies will only increase your chances and none of them are guaranteed. In addition to these strategies, there are a few things you can do to increase your chances with the swinger lifestyle in general.
First of all, male confidence is essential. You should not be arrogant or bossy but all the swinger women are attracted to the confident man. Check out the Important Note To Men section for some help in boosting your confidence in the lifestyle.
Another incredibly important thing that will up your chances is great hygiene. I know it seems obvious but always try to look and smell your best when meeting other swingers.
For the guys, even if you have an incredible penis. Don’t lead with the dick picture. If you are meeting online first, a good G or PG picture can get you a lot further. If you have a six-pack abs, do a shirtless picture. If you are like me and don’t have that type of body, a great picture in a suit or shirt and tie can go a long way.
Now let’s jump into some great ways to find the single woman for your threesome.
Using Swinger Websites for your FMF threesome
There are some great swinger websites out there to help you find a single woman for your MFM threesome or FFM threesome. These websites can be incredibly helpful but also challenging to have success with.
Probably the best swinger website for finding single women for a threesome is AFF (Adult Friend Finder) and I am going to use it as an example. Of course, the majority of profiles you will find on this website are swinger couples and single men but there are a good number of women on there.
We live in a fairly rural area but on AFF we can find dozens of single women within our area.
Due to this ratio of single women, they do get a lot of attention and receive a ton of messages so you need to stand out in some way. If you send a message just saying “Hi”, you are going to be one of the dozens that they receive that day.
When I reach out to a single woman on AFF, I send a message introducing us and telling her what we are looking for. I also put in an explanation that we are a drama-free couple that is experienced in the swinger lifestyle. I also include a nice G-rated picture of the two of us well-dressed and smiling.
To be honest, maybe 10% of these women respond to these messages but you can’t take it personally. As I said, they are probably inundated with messages and it is possible to get lost in the pile. Don’t spam them but it is fine to send them another message in a few weeks to up your chances.
If the single woman responds, the communication channel is open and that is usually the hardest part of the whole process. Communicate openly and honestly with them and see what develops. Throw in some compliments. Be confident but I find it better to not just tell them that you are going to rock their world or anything like that.
A word of caution about these websites. There are fake profiles and “model” profiles that are just trying to collect points on the website. If they are listed as being local to you, bring up some local things like the weather or landmarks to make sure they know what you are talking about. This can weed out some of the scammers out there.
When it comes time to meet up with this single woman for your threesome, always meet in a public place like a restaurant or bar. It is great for safety and will make her feel much more comfortable. Always put everyone’s safety and comfort first.
It is important to be confident and persistent without being arrogant or desperate. If you keep at it, you will eventually have success.
The Club Option for finding a single woman for a threesome
Another great method for finding a single woman for a threesome is to check out a swinger club, swinger resort, or swinger house party. Once again, this can be a challenge as the women get a lot of attention at these parties but it is also a great opportunity.
First of all, do not wait for a single woman to come looking for you. Go up as a couple and introduce yourselves. Let her see your interest and give her a chance to get comfortable with you. Don’t push it and try to continue an awkward conversation.
A quick hello and a compliment will go a long way for later in the evening. We usually will do the introduction and move on fairly quickly. After that, we will wave when we make eye contact and follow up with more conversation as the night goes on.
At some point in the night if things go well we will let her know that we are interested in an FMF threesome or FFM threesome with her if she is interested. Full disclosure, it doesn’t work half the time but it does work.
The key is not to take it as a rejection if she isn’t interested. She is probably overwhelmed with attention and even if it doesn’t work out that night that doesn’t mean it wasn’t worthwhile. We have had that happen and then met up with the same woman at a later party. We are now the couple that she knows and feels comfortable leading to hanging out and some fun play on that night.
Some of you may be saying ok that sounds good but where do I find these clubs or parties. We use SLS (SwingLifestyle) to find these clubs and house parties in our area. This website has the best listing of swinger events no matter where we go in the country.
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The SLS clubs section has a great list of swinger clubs and resorts by state and the SLS events section has a great list of house parties that you can search by area. Not only do you get to see these events but you can sign up as going to these places so that you can see who else may be going to the event.
We will use this feature to reach out to the single women listed as attending so that we can introduce ourselves ahead of time. When we can do this, it increases our chance of successfully putting together an FMF threesome or an FFM threesome depending on the preference of the woman.
The best method for finding your swinger Unicorn
This is a counterintuitive method but it has been awesome for us when looking for a swinger threesome with a single woman. We will go to parties as a BBC or single-man party.
Ok, a lot of you may be saying what the hell is this guy thinking?
A BBC or single man party is a party that is geared towards having a lot of single men for couples and single women looking for threesomes or gangbangs with single men. So how does this help you with your FMF threesome or FFM threesome?
These parties draw a higher ratio of single women than most regular swinger parties. The parties are loaded with single guys so if you are the couple hitting on the single woman, she is going to remember who you are.
The single woman may not of thought of it before but when a ton of guys are hitting on her the FMF threesome or FFM threesome may stand out to her as an intriguing option.
We do this regularly and often find a single woman for a threesome who didn’t even know that was what she was looking for. Introduce yourself, be confident, and see what happens. Even when it doesn’t work out for a threesome we have had it work out that the single woman and another guy join us for a fun swinger swap.
This is the method that has given us the highest success rate. At least half the time, we find a woman for an FMF threesome or FFM threesome using this method. Add to this, the possible swaps and the MFM threesomes that we have had and we have a 100% success rate with having some play.
The one downfall with this method is that you need to be comfortable in this environment. As a couple, you need to be completely comfortable with tons of single men hitting on the female of the couple. As a confident swinger couple, this is not an issue for us and we just have fun.
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We have had a great time at these parties and our success rate in finding a single woman for a threesome has been great. These parties can be hard to find and may require a little travel but once again we use SLS (SwingLifestyle) to find them.
Important Note To Men Who Are Looking For An FMF Threesome
Men who are looking at finding a single woman for a threesome must conquer their insecurities before ever doing this. Confidence is key in the swinger lifestyle and even more important when trying to arrange an FMF threesome.
If you go into your Unicorn hunt without total confidence in yourself and your abilities, it is almost doomed to failure. Face your insecurities ahead of time and take action to improve your confidence.
When my wife and I first started in the swinger lifestyle, we found all kinds of articles dealing with the fears and insecurities of women but very little for men. I found that with many swinger couples, the woman has the confidence and the swinger drive while the man has major worries that hold him back.
Two major concerns that men face when looking at a threesome are their sexual performance and their penis size. So what steps did I take to gain the confidence to feel good about myself and find our swinger threesome with a single woman experience?
Your Sexual Performance
Having fun in the swinger lifestyle is difficult when you are worried about your sexual performance. This was a problem that I had at one point. The libido was there and I wanted to perform but it was not as easy to get it up as it was when I was younger.
If you have any concerns about your sexual performance, check out this article on at-home acoustic wave therapy. The Hollywood elite has used this type of revolutionary treatment for years. The Phoenix Device let me perform like a porn star and gave me the confidence for the swinger lifestyle.
Your Penis Size Concerns
Like many men, I had always been worried about my penis size. When my wife wanted to get involved in the swinger lifestyle, my penis size anxiety increased. When we first started, I was so concerned about my penis size and that lack of confidence will kill your chance at finding a single woman for a threesome.
I did not need to have the biggest penis in the room but I wanted to have a penis that I would not feel ashamed of. If you are nervous or uncomfortable, it will show and truly sabotage your success.
Check out The Truth About Swinger Penis Size for information on this delicate subject. What is the average swinger’s penis size, does penis size matter to swingers, how to make your penis appear bigger, and how to make your penis bigger (yes, this is scientifically possible with a little catch).
