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Swinger Terms and Glossary: A sexy guide to swinger definitions and acronyms

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When you are first getting started in the swinger lifestyle, there are so many new things to try and explore. One of the confusing things that we found about the swinger life was all the different swinger terms. We made this swinger glossary to help explain each swinger term and swinger acronym.

We have tried to make this swinger glossary all inclusive but there are so many different terms out there that this may be impossible. The good news is that the swinger community is probably the friendliest community that you will ever find. If you do not know something just ask and people will help out.

The swinger lifestyle is all about exploring and trying out new things. These different swinger terms help to describe the experiences that are available. If you know of any terms that we missed or should add, just leave them in the comments section below and we will add them in.

Aftercare

swinger terms aftercare

A term most often used in connection to BDSM. Often after a BDSM session, there is a period of time where the participants will receive physical comfort and emotional support. This is believed to help ease them back to the real non-BDSM world. Often this is seen as hugging or massage after the session.

“Aftercare is seen by many as an essential part of a bondage session.”

AFF

An acronym for Adult Friend Finder. A popular adult dating site for swingers and swinger couples.

“We have hooked up with a lot of couples that we have met on AFF.”

Airtight

This is when a woman has anal, vaginal, and oral all at once. Referred to airtight as every orifice is filled. This can often be seen in a large group playroom setting.

“When my wife had a gangbang with three guys last night, they all did her at once and she was airtight.”

Backdoor

As a sexual term, this refers to anal sex.

“My wife has no interest in anal sex. Don’t even think about going backdoor with her.”

Bareback

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Bareback = No Condom

This is having sex while not wearing a condom. This is not recommended and not common in the swinger lifestyle. While some prefer bareback sex, this is seen as dangerous and unhealthy.

“Most swingers always use a condom when playing. They never do it bareback.”

BBBJ

An acronym that refers to “BareBack Blow Job”. This means having oral sex without a condom.

“Though few swingers will have bareback sex most have a BBBJ.”

BBC

As a swinger acronym, this refers to “Big Black Cock”. Often, you may see swinger couple profiles stating that they are looking for BBC to join them for a threesome.

“Many profiles list that they want BBC to join them but my wife is more interested in someone that makes her laugh and feel good about herself instead of physical characteristics.”

BBW

As a swinger acronym, this stands for “Big Beautiful Woman”. Often used in profiles by larger women to describe themselves. This usually means that the woman is more than a few pounds overweight.

“I love playing with a BBW as long as she has a great personality and is fun to be around. Having a good time is much more important than someone’s physique.”

BDSM

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BDSM

Refers to Bondage, Discipline, and Sado-Masochism. Covers a wide range of what is referred to as “kinks”. These can include restraints, whipping, dominance and submission, caging, sensory teasing, and pain play.

This type of behavior is often seen at swinger resorts/clubs in playrooms referred to as “dungeons”. An example of a resort dungeon can be found at Secrets Hideaway in Orlando, Florida.

This is not necessarily a swinger behavior as many swingers do not participate and many people into BDSM are not swingers.

Our first BDSM experience was at a resort dungeon.”

Bednotchers

This swinger term refers to a swinger couple that seeks to have sex with mostly or exclusively new couples. A bednotcher would not form a long-term sexual swinger relationship with another couple. Sometimes thought to be derogatory but this term does describe a lot of swinger couples.

“We like having sex with new couples but do not consider ourselves as bednotchers because we sometimes go back to the same ones again.”

Bi-Comfortable

This swinger term refers to a person that is comfortable participating in sexual activity with the same sex but this is not their main sexual orientation. Often bi-comfortable people will limit their bi-sexual behavior such as oral sex only, in a couples environment only, or even limited to meaning that they are only comfortable with bisexual behavior in the same bed.

If you were interested in a bi-sexual relationship with a bi-comfortable person, you would want to do more communication about what they are actually into.

“My wife is very open to having sex with another woman as long as she is part of another couple. She is definitely bi-comfortable.”

Bi-Curious

Swinger Terms bi-curious

This swinger term refers to a person that is curious about sex with the same gender. This is supposed to mean that they have little or no experience in sex with the same gender.

With a swinger couple, many women commonly use the term bi-curious even after numerous bisexual experiences. Often they should be using related terms like bi-receptive, bi-comfortable, and bi-tolerant instead of bi-curious.

It is very common for women to describe themselves this way but men use the term as well.

“My wife has never had sex with a woman but she fantasizes about it sometimes. She is definitely bi-curious.”

Bi-Receptive

This is a person that is willing to have sexual acts performed on them by the same sex but not willing to reciprocate. The most common example of this would be a woman the is willing to have another woman perform oral sex on her but will not perform oral sex on another woman.

“My wife is bi-receptive. She enjoys having other women perform oral sex on her but does not like reciprocating.”

BiSexual

A person who enjoys having sex with people of both sexes. In the swinger world, it is common to find couples that have a bisexual female but a straight male.

“Since becoming a swinger, Mindy has found that she really enjoys sex with other women and that she is bisexual.”

Bondage

swinger terms Bondage

This is the sexual fetish in which a person is bound or tied with ropes, belts, fabric, or leather straps. This is a common BDSM kink that you may observe in a swinger dungeon.

“My wife enjoys some bondage when we play as long as nothing is tied too tight.”

Bukkake

This term refers to multiple men ejaculating on a women’s face in a sexual session.

“My wife has a Bukkake fantasy. She would love to have a bunch of men cum on her face with her being the sole focus of their attention.”

Bull

This term refers to a man that has sex with a woman from a male/female couple. The term was often used in the sense of a dominant male bull that is part of humiliating the male from the relationship (Cuckold).

This definition is not generally used anymore and the term more commonly refers to the Bull as being the man that has sex with the wife or as part of a male-female-male sexual encounter.

“At swinger resorts, there are so many more single men than women. Finding a bull to join a couple is much easier than finding a woman.”

CBJ

A swinger acronym that refers to a “Covered BlowJob”. This is oral sex with a condom.

“The only way my wife will give a CBJ is if the condom is flavored.”

CD

As a swinger acronym that is used in profiles, this refers to a “cross dresser”.

“We are not into cross-dressing so we avoid people with CD listed in their profile.”

CIM

A swinger acronym for “Cum In Mouth”. This is for the male to ejaculate into the mouth of someone performing oral sex.

Clean

In the swinging world, this term refers to a person that does not have any sexually transmittable diseases (STDs). Of course, you can not usually verify this so condom use is a generally accepted and encouraged behavior in the swinger community.

“Many couples will list themselves as clean on swinger websites.”

Cock Blocking

Doing something or saying something that ruins a man’s chance of having sex with someone else. This can mean outright action or just saying something that ruins the mood.

“We often see new couples where the wife is cock blocking the man. When things are getting good, she will start to feel sick or need attention. Usually, this is because she is not ready to engage in the swinger lifestyle.”

COF

A swinger acronym for “Cum on Face”. This is when the man ejaculates onto the face of the person performing oral sex.

Compersion

This is the sense of pleasure and arousal that a person gets from seeing the pleasure and arousal of their partner. This is the opposite of jealousy or envy and is more than just the arousal from watching. This is the feeling of joy when your partner is excited and enjoying things.

“I really love it when my wife is excited by trying something new. It really adds to my feeling of compersion when I see her so aroused.”

Consent

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Often considered the #1 swinger rule, consent is the affirmation or permission to make sexual overtures or sexual advances on another person. This needs consent should be obvious and verbalized. No matter what else is going on at that time, consent should not be assumed.

“Even though we obviously wanted to play with the other couple. It is good that they asked for our consent before touching us.”

COT

A swinger acronym for “Cum on Tits”. This is when the man ejaculates onto the breasts of the woman performing oral sex.

Cover

As a swinger term, this refers to wearing a condom.

“I will not have sex with someone besides my wife without cover.”

CPL

Short for “couple”. This is often found in online profiles.

“Swinger CPL looking for another woman to fulfill threesome fantasies.”

Cross Play

A swinger term in which the members of two couples sexually interact to some degree but do not actually swap partners. An example of this is if two couples are playing in the same room (parallel play) and one woman briefly touches the penis of the man that is not her partner.

“Our swinging lifestyle experience continually progressed. We started with parallel play, then cross play, then soft swap, and eventually full swap.”

Cuckold

This swinger term refers to the husband of a woman who is having sex with other men. The man is usually present and is approving of the situation.

Traditionally, this term often referred to a man that is degraded by his wife in the process but this does not seem to be the case anymore. Nowadays, it just refers to the man in the relationship who watches his wife having sex with another.

“He enjoyed being the cuckold. He loved watching his wife getting nailed by other men.”

Curvy

swinger glossary curvy woman

This term is often found in swinger profiles. Used to describe a woman that is slightly overweight but not quite BBW (see above).

“I like a woman that describes herself as curvy. Not really big but with some definite shape to her.”

Cut

As a swinger term, this refers to a circumcised man.

“My wife has only had sex with cut men. It is not a preference of hers just that almost all men in our area are circumcised.”

D&D Free

Not exclusively a swinger term but is often used in profiles as an abbreviation for Drug and Disease Free. This would mean that the person is not a drug user.

“My wife and I do not use drugs so we look for other swinger couples that are D&D free.”

Dominant

Swinger Terms Dominant

It is typically used in the BDSM setting but can refer to sexual activity in general. This term refers to a person’s desire to be in control of the relationship with their partner. The dominant partner makes the decisions and is usually in the position of control.

This dominant position can change depending on the circumstances or the roles being played.

“When we are alone, I am usually the dominant one in our sexual life but when we play in groups my wife becomes the dominant one.”

Double Penetration (DP)

This swinger term usually refers to a woman being penetrated by two penises (either vaginal or anal). This term can also refer to the use of dildos or other objects doing the penetration but this is less common.

“When she let both of us go in her at the same time, it was her first experience with double penetration.”

Drama

As a swinger term, this refers to jealousy, insecurity, or other relationship hang-ups that cause turmoil in swinger play.

“When we are looking for another couple to play with, we are definitely looking for someone who is drama free. We want to just have some light-hearted fun.”

DS

A swinger acronym that is often used in profiles to indicate “Doggie Style” sex. This is sex with the girl on her hands and knees while the man vaginally penetrates her from behind.

DT

A swinger acronym that is often used in profiles to indicate “Deep Throat”. This is oral sex in which the entire penis is swallowed.

DV

This swinger acronym refers to “Double Vaginal” penetration. This could be with sex toys but usually refers to penetration by two men.

“Although my wife enjoys sex with two men she does not like DV sex. She prefers to have sex with one and oral sex with the other.”

Entertain

This term from the swinger glossary refers to offering one’s house as a location for a swinger party or swinger activity.

“Once our kids were all grown up, we were able to entertain our swinger friends at our house.”

Exhibitionism

A term that refers to exposing your sexual body parts to others. A lot of swinger exhibitionism refers to other people watching your sexual activity.

“Many swinger playrooms have windows. This allows people to fulfill their exhibionism fatasies even if they don’t play with others.”

Facial

This is a sexual term that is used when a man ejaculates on a woman’s face.

“When my wife is really excited, she loves receiving a facial at the end of oral sex.”

FMF

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FMF

A swinger acronym for Female Male Female. FMF is a threesome with two females and one male. This acronym can mean that the two females will play with the male and not each other but this is not universal.

Many use this term interchangeably with the FFM acronym but technically FMF indicates the women do not play together and FFM meant that they do.

“I am not bi-curious but I would like to watch my husband having sex with another woman. I am looking for another woman for some FMF play.”

FFM

A swinger acronym for Female Female Male. An FFM is a threesome with two females and one male that involves play between the two women. See FMF above for distinction.

“I am bi-curious and my husband fantasizes about having sex with me and another woman. I would love to have an FFM threesome to fulfill all of our fantasies.”

Full Swap

This is one of the major swinger terms and refers to a couple swap that includes actual sexual intercourse. The full swap term is often used as a comparison to a soft swap which is a couple swap that involves less than a full swap such as just touching and/or oral sex.

A full swap is generally considered the full sexual experience couple swap.

“Now that we are experienced swingers, we only want to do a full swap. We figure why only go halfway.”

Gang Bang

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This is a swinger term that refers to group sex that involves one person of one sex and multiple persons from the other sex. Usually, this refers to one woman and multiple men but it can reference the other way around.

“The first time we watched a gang bang was at a resort playroom. We watched a young woman having sex with three guys.”

Generous

Sometimes used in online profiles as money for sex codeword.

“We do not want to cross any legal boundaries so we avoid anyone who has a profile with the word generous in it.”

Golden Shower

This is a sexual term for urinating on someone who sexually enjoys it.

“I have never seen anyone receive a golden shower. I am not sure that I would be into watching someone get urinated on.”

Greek

A sexual term that refers to anal sexual action. It could refer to any type of anal penetration.

“My wife is not into any major Greek sexual action. Maybe a finger going in but nothing more.”

Group Sex

This swinger term refers to a group of people playing in the same room. This is different from an orgy in that the couples do not sexually interact with each other.

“We love watching group sex even if it doesn’t develop into an orgy.”

Group Room

A part of an adult playroom that is set up for group sex. Usually there will be multiple beds pushed together for this to occur.

“My wife and I often check out the group room area first. We love watching a full-on orgy and will often join in.”

Hall Pass

When one member of a couple gives the other member permission to have sex with another person without them being present.

“My wife gave me a hall pass for my trip to Europe. Does that mean I should give her one for while I am gone?”

Hedo (Hedonism)

Probably the most popular swinger lifestyle resort, Hedonism II is located in Jamaica and is a must-visit for any swinger couple. There is great action going on at this resort seven days a week.

“My wife and I loved our Hedo trip. We had so much sex and met so many like-minded couples.”

Host

As a swinger term, the host is the person or couple that provides the location for swinger sexual activities. Often refers to someone who uses their house for swinger parties.

“We love it when Jim and Kate host. Their pool and hot tub are great for mixing with other couples.”

HotWife

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Hotwife

Another addition to the swinger glossary refers to a married woman that is active in the swinger lifestyle. This could be a woman that plays with or without her husband. Often when playing with their husbands it will be a gangbang or MFM situation.

This used to refer to a relationship that was different than cuckolding in that the husband was not degraded. This distinction has been less prevalent in recent times.

“I love it when my wife acts as the hotwife. It turns me on watching her satisfying other men.”

Hotel Takeover

When a swinger group takes over all of the rooms of a vanilla (non-swinger) hotel for a swinger event. The facility will only be available for those involved in the lifestyle. This allows for activities to take place that would not be possible if the hotel was operating under normal conditions.

Many hotel takeovers involve the groups putting together adult playrooms, dungeons, and other lifestyle amenities. There can be different rules at these events depending on what the hotel allows.

Some may allow for nude use of the pools while others will not. Most things depend on local rules and laws.

“Our local swinger group did a hotel takeover. Usually, we go to swinger resorts but it was nice not having to travel so far.”

House Party

This is a swinger lifestyle event that someone hosts at their personal home. Usually, these events are small and involve few people but sometimes they can be quite large.

“We went to our first house party last weekend. It ended up being a big orgy in their living room.”

Hung

As a sexual term, this refers to a man with an above-average-sized penis. There is no set definition of what size is considered “hung” but there have been a lot of studies on penis size including the preferences of women.

“While some women prefer a hung man to play with, most women have other characteristics that they look at first.”

HWP

A swinger acronym for “Height, weight proportionate.” You will often see this acronym used in online profiles. When someone says they are looking for someone that is HWP, it means that they want to exclude overweight people.

“Though we are not overly athletic, we like to play with couples that are HWP. They don’t need to be thin but not overly large.”

IRL

A swinger acronym that refers to “In Real Life”.

“I find that IRL usually refers to the vanilla world.”

ISO

A swinger acronym that refers to “In Search Of”.

“Our profile reads ISO a real unicorn because like many couples we would like to try the FMF threesome.”

KIK

A phone app that is commonly used by the swinger lifestyle community. Kik has fewer restrictions and is easier to use than similar apps.

“We joined the KIK group for the swinger group. Now we can keep up with what is going on.”

Kink

A swinger term that refers to a sexual preference that may be considered out of the ordinary. In online profiles, many will list their kinks so that they can find a match with similar interests. A list of kinks may include BDSM techniques, role-playing, or situational play.

“I think it is important to let other couples know about our kinks. We do not want to surprise them when we take out our toys.”

Lifestyle

A major swinger glossary term. This term basically means the same thing as swinging. It refers to all the different facets of non-monogamous sexual relationships. This is basically the opposite of “traditional” relationships.

A person/event is referred to as being lifestyle if it involves these non-monogamous activities.

“Ever since we had our first couple swap. We can not get enough of lifestyle events.”

MFM

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MFM

A swinger acronym for Male-Female-Male. This refers to a threesome involving two males and one female. It usually is meant to refer to a threesome where the two men do not play with each other and the sexual attention of the men is focused on the female.

“Last night we invited a man from the bar back to our room. It was our first MFM experience.”

MMF

A swinger acronym for Male-Male-Female. This refers to a threesome involving two males and a female in which the men will sexually interact with each other in addition to sexually interacting with the female.

“I will not fool around with another man on my own but will when my wife is around. So only in an MMF situation.”

Newbie

In a swinger term sense, a newbie refers to someone who is new to the swinger lifestyle. Additionally, it could refer to someone that is new to one particular aspect of the swinger lifestyle.

“Although, we had done some swaps with other couples. I was a complete newbie when we had our first threesome.”

NSA

A swinger acronym for “No Strings Attached”. Often used in profiles to refer to people that are just interested in sex without forming any kind of relationship.”

“We avoid people with NSA profiles because we enjoy the friendships that we make in the swinger community.”

Off Premise

In the swinger glossary, off-premise refers to a swinger club, resort, or party that does not allow sexual activity on site.

“The club is an off-premise facility so you need to go to a hotel room to actually play with another couple.”

On Premise

In swinger terms, on-premise refers to a swinger club, resort, or party that has accommodations or facilities that allow for sex at the place. Typically, these are playrooms but could be something similar.

“We prefer our lifestyle clubs to be on-premise. That way if the mood hits us we can act on it without having to travel.”

Only on Vacation

This swinger term refers to people that only play when on vacation and away from home.

“My wife and I definitely play only on vacation. We do not want to play with anyone that we might meet up with in the real world.”

Open Door

As a swinger term, this often refers to a playroom setting. An open door in a playroom indicates that the couple inside is open to anyone coming in the room and watching. It also indicates that they may be open to someone joining in if they get permission first.

“We love having open door sex in a playroom. We love being watched and often enjoy letting others join in on our fun.”

Open Relationship

swinger glossary open relationship

As a swinger term, this refers to a relationship in which partners can engage in sexual relationships without the other partner.

“My wife and I do not have an open relationship. We have decided to only play together and never separately.”

Orgy

This swinger term refers to group sex. Usually means more than two couples but there is no definitive definition. Just like any other type of play, you need to ask for permission to join an orgy, and permission is not implied.

“When we get to a swinger resort, we often check out the group playroom first. We love watching a good orgy with many people sexually active.”

Parallel Play

This swinger term refers to two or more couples having sex in the same room with their own partners without swapping. This is often used by newbies as a way to ease into the swinger lifestyle.

“Our first lifestyle experience was parallel play. My wife and I had sex in a playroom next to another couple. Even though we never had contact with them, we found it to be an incredibly stimulating experience.”

Play

This is a broad swinger term that refers to any type of sexual activity with others.

“We don’t always play at swinger events. Often you can have fun talking and flirting with others even if you don’t have sex.”

Playroom

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A playroom from the Rooftop Resort

An area or series of rooms that are set up for sexual activity and encounters. These are usually found at swinger resorts (a good example would be the Rooftop Resort in Florida), hotel takeovers, house parties, or any other organized lifestyle event.

These rooms will often have multiple beds that allow for group sex, side-by-side play, voyeurism, or many other types of play. You can find a playroom guide that details much of the fun and expected rules for these places here.

“Whenever we go to a new swinger resort, we can’t wait to check out the playrooms. We love to watch other couples and play in the same room as other couples.”

Playstyle

A swinger term that describes how a person enjoys playing in the swinger world.

“Our playstyle is definitely the same room full swap. We love watching each other having sex with others.”

Profile

As a swinger term, profile refers to a personal page on a swinger lifestyle website. This page will usually contain a description of the person/couple, their interests, what they are looking for, and often pictures.

“We get a lot of attention from our profile page. It has a lot of incredibly hot pictures of my wife and descriptions of some of our encounters.”

Puppy Pile

As a swinger term, puppy pile refers to a large group of people that are all snuggled up to each other. Some use this term to refer to non-sexual activity but I have seen it refer to groups engaging in sexual activity as well.

“When we entered the group bed area of the playroom, we saw a large puppy pile of about ten people holding each other. We were not sure if we had missed all the action.”

Reverse Cowgirl

A term referring to a sexual position with the girl on top and facing away from the man.

“When we do an MFM threesome, my wife does the reverse cowgirl on me while performing oral sex on the other man.”

Safe Word

This is an important word in the swinger glossary. It has a couple of applications in the swinger lifestyle. This is a word chosen by participants prior to play activity which means to immediately stop the activity.

Commonly used in the BDSM world to stop play when one participant becomes uncomfortable. The safe word is used to provide safety in a role-play situation where one may not realize that the other is uncomfortable.

Also, used by couples in the swinger lifestyle to let their partner know that they do not wish to pursue a sexual activity with another couple/person without coming out and saying it.

“My wife and I have a safe word in case we feel uncomfortable with the way a swap is happening. This allows us to back out of a situation before feelings are hurt.”

Same Room

A swinger term that refers to couples that play together in the same room and do not separate completely. It does not mean that both will necessarily be participating just that they will not go to separate areas to play.

“My wife and I are same room only. We enjoy watching each other play and will often talk about it afterward.”

SBF

Swinger acronym for “Single Black Female”.

“My first swinger encounter that did not involve another couple was with an SBF. She was incredibly hot.”

SBM

Swinger acronym for “Single Black Male”.

“The first time we had a stranger join in with us was an SBM at the Rooftop Resort in Florida.”

Sensual Bondage

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This is a BDSM term for the swinger glossary. It refers to giving sensual stimulation to a partner while they are bound with rope, fabric, silk, or similar items. The stimulation is given using feathers or toys but does not involve pain.

“We are not into BDSM in general but if we were going to try anything it would be something gentle like sensual bondage. Maybe some light ropes and gently running a vibrator over the body.”

Separate Play

A swinger term that refers to when a person participates in sexual activity without their partner being present. This term usually implies that the partner is aware of what is going on and may even be playing at the same time.

“We had our first separate play the other night. I loved hearing about her sexual adventures when we got back together.”

Separate Rooms

A swinger term that is very similar to separate play. This term refers to a couple that is engaged in play with another couple but not in the same room. So all separate room play is separate play but not all separate play is separate room play.

“We met a real nice couple at the resort pool and decided to do separate rooms for the first time. I went back to their room with his wife and he went back to our room with my wife.”

Soft Swap

This is a major swinger glossary term. It refers to a swinger partner swap that does not involve penetrative sex (full swap). This is often a restriction that involves newer swinger couples though some couples stay as soft swap couples.

A soft swap will often include oral sex, touching, and girl-on-girl play but does not involve actual sex. Couples should spell out the limitations of the soft swap with the other couple before beginning to play.

“When we first started swinging, we were soft swap only. I loved watching my wife blow someone else but was not sure that I would be ok with watching someone else have sex with her.”

Squirting

This term refers to female ejaculation of a noticeable amount of liquid. There is some controversy as to whether this is just urine that is released during orgasm or something more.

The best scientific definition that I could find says: “This type of orgasm includes a rapid ejection of urine from the bladder. Squirting sometimes also involves secretions from the skene’s gland. The skene’s glands are sometimes called the female prostate because they function similarly to the male prostate.”(source).

“We had never heard of squirting before becoming swingers but since then we have met several women that squirt when they have an orgasm.”

STR

Swinger term that is shorthand for straight. Often used in profiles to indicate that the person is not bi or bi-curious.

“In our profile, my wife is listed as bi-curious but I am listed as STR. I do not have any interest in fooling around with another man.”

Submissive

A term that refers to the opposite of the dominant term. The submissive person lets the dominant person dictate the terms of the relationship. The submissive is not in control of the situation or the play.

Most often used in the BDSM world.

“Neither my wife nor I will be the submissive. We both like being in control too much.”

Swap

This swinger term refers to the temporary exchange of partners for sexual activity.

“My wife and I were really nervous before our first swap. Now we love swapping partners with other couples.”

SWF

Swinger acronym for “Single White Female”.

“In the swinging world, a true SWF is very rare.”

Swinger

This term refers to a person that engages in sexual activity outside of a normal one-partner sexual relationship. This term does not refer to one that is just having sex without commitment but rather a person that is normally in a committed relationship but has sex in addition to that relationship.

“I never thought I would become a swinger but now that I am totally into the swinging lifestyle.”

SWM

Swinger acronym for “Single White Male”.

“In the swinging world, it is pretty easy to find an SWM to join in.”

T-girl

This refers to a transexual lady. Usually, this lady was born as a man but now dresses or identifies as a woman.

Travel

As a swinger term travel refers to the opposite of the term entertain. To travel means willing to drive some distance in order to participate in swinger lifestyle activities.

“We still have teenagers at home so we can not entertain there. So we are willing to travel in order to have some play time.”

TS

This is short for “Trans Sexual”. A person who is now identifying as a gender that is different from their gender at birth.

TV

This is short for “TransVestite”. A person that was born male but dresses as a woman.

Uncut

As a swinger term, this refers to uncircumcised men.

“My wife would really like to play with an uncut man. She has only had experience with circumcised men.”

Unicorn

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This is another major entry in the swinger glossary. The term unicorn refers to a single female that is willing to play with other swingers. This is truly a rare creature. Many swinger couples that want to add a single female for an FMF threesome refer to wanting a unicorn.

“My wife and I really want to have a threesome with another woman but it is so hard to find a genuine unicorn.”

Vanilla

This is a swinger term that refers to anything that is not swinger lifestyle. This can refer to persons, activities, or even events.

“After all of our vacations to the swinger resorts, I think we would be bored going on a vanilla vacation.”

Voyeurism

As a swinger term voyeurism refers to gaining pleasure from the consensual watching of others engaged in sexual activity. Often, swinger playrooms are set up with voyeurism in mind with opportunities to watch others.

“Whenever my wife and I go to the playrooms, we spend some time satisfying our voyeurism urges. We get really excited watching others.”

420

Not really a swinger term but is found in a lot of swinger profiles. This is used as a reference to marijuana use. The main use that you see in profiles is used as “420 friendly” meaning that they use or accept the use of marijuana.

“My wife and I avoid couples that are listed as 420 friendly. We don’t care if someone smokes marijuana but we really hate the smell.”